You’ve passed by each other enough times in the hall at the office to know what color his eyes are and what’s his favorite tie. You’ve both danced around the flirting game and he finally asked you out on a date. What should you do; he’s your co-worker? Are there rules about this sort of thing? Can your boss put a halt to this type of office romance?
A 2006 study completed by the Society for Human Resource Management, claims that of the polled entities, 72 percent did not have an official policy (written or verbal) regarding workplace romance. Nine percent of the offices that held to such a policy did strongly forbid such office relationships.
Starting an office romance is a more complicated decision to make than deciding whether or not to date someone you do not work with. First of all, you need to ascertain whether or not your employer does have an official policy prohibiting office relationships. Once you are clear on that issue, you need to take an introspective look at all of the possibilities.
If you and your co-worker decide to start dating and after time, you break up, will this put a damper on the workplace environment to see your ex-lover everyday? That is an important thought process that you need to work through before making your decision to date. Will you be able to keep your love life separate from the office? The Human Resource manager will not look too kindly on open displays of affection between co-workers. This most likely applies to your fellow co-workers as well; they are at the office to work, not to watch a soap opera.
That being said, if you can handle the idea that you may have to work with an ex in the future and if you are prepared to keep your affection outside the office, then maybe dating your co-worker is not such a crazy idea. If you decide that you can’t date him or her for those reasons, be sure to let the person know that you are interested but just don’t feel comfortable at the present time dating a co-worker. You never know, maybe in the future one of you will end up at a different place of employment and can then pursue a relationship.
If you give each other the green light to date, then remember to be courteous and professional to you co-workers. You may not want to tell anyone right away that you two are an item, but if you do become serious in your relationship, it may be a good idea to inform your boss or human resource manager. Regarding you fellow co-workers, it is probably best that the information which is filtered out into the office comes from you and your partner, and not through office gossip at the water cooler.
In the end, before you say yes to the office heartthrob, you need to take stock of where you are in your life and where you’re looking to go from this point and assess the possible complications of such a romance and when you’ve done all that and feel at peace to proceed, go with caution and have fun.
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